Long distance relationships are believed to be hard to go on. You may be discouraged by your family and friends, and they may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken.
On the other hand, the long distance relationship also makes the simplest things the sweetest like being able to hold the others hand, eating together, feeling, walking together, feel each other touch and so on. In the following paragraphs, I am going to discuss how you can maintain your long distance relationship.
1. Communicate regularly
Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” daily— this is a must. In addition, try to update your partner on your life and its happening, however mundane some of the things may seem. You could send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time to make the other person feel loved and attended to.
2. Manage your expectations
Both of you need to be updated about your expectations during this long distance relationship. You can set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. Couples should be frank with each other about all these things.
3. Avoid excessive communication
It is folly to be obsessed and “sticky”. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples thought that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true. And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.”
4. Avoid bad situations
If some of your bad habits such as smoking, consume alcohol annoy your partner, either try to change your habit or tell your partner beforehand so as to reassure him/her. Don’t disregard this sort of matter because your partner is only going to be extra worried or extra suspicious, and of course, very upset because you are putting him/her in a position where he/she feels extra powerless/lacking in control.
5. Make visits to each other
Visit your partner after a long time always is a special part of every long-distance relationship. You finally get to meet each other to fulfil all the little things like kissing, holding hands and so on. These sort of common things become very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships.
6. Be candid with each other
Don’t try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Your partner would be delighted if you give him/her the opportunity to help you when needed. It’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.
7. Be familiar with each other’s schedules
It’s important to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each other’s life e.g. college mid-terms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews and etc. This is especially essential when the both of you are living in different time zones.
8. Stay optimistic
You need to be optimistic to keep the long-distance relationship to keep it alive. Evidently, the waiting can be painful and you can sometimes feel lonesome but you need to remind yourself that Patience is a virtue. You suppose to be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.
9. Send gifts
There is power in a memento. Be it a small pendant, a ring, a keychain, a CD of songs and videos, or a bottle of fragrance. We often attach meanings to the little things and items found in our everyday life, whether knowingly or not.This is why something so simple can mean so much to a person, when others may see little or no value in it.
10. Regard it as an opportunity
See it as a learning journey for the both of you. Regard it as a test of your love for each other. Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger.