I don’t know about your house, but in mine, the idea of a team has somehow equated to mom do everything, with the ‘team’ showing up to eat the meal mom has cooked. How did I get here? I went from a full-time working mom who managed to run her house and children like a well-oiled machine (well mostly) to a stay at home mom with 2 older children and a nursing toddler on hip and cleaning up after everyone. I’d subscribed to the guilting that because I’m home now I had to cook, clean, and handle everything for everyone in our house. And on the flipside, it was like my husband and kids went on vacation from doing anything that could be considered a chore…”Oh, hell no!”
And the laundry keeps piling up!
“Ugh!” I hate laundry! It was no big deal when I only had to clean my clothes but with a household of 5 people plus dogs, it’s a losing battle. And I’m no Martha Stewart, I’m not doing anything fancy here. I’m just trying to keep my head about water. This all came to a head when I had a mommy meltdown. “That’s it!” I shouted. “I’m hiring help!” I broke down and accepted that I was overwhelmed. My house was beyond my comfort level of messy/dirty and there was no way I would be able to get it thoroughly clean on my own while working from home, chasing a toddler, and still handling all my daily duties. I hired a cleaning lady and I couldn’t be happier about the decision.
I’ve gone over to the dark side
Don’t go there! That was one time, people! I would love to have a lifestyle that affords such luxuries on a consistent basis. I will one day soon. But until my bank account reflects my aspirations, I must be frugally minded. Here I pulled the trigger because I’d gotten a great referral with discount, and the cost to my personal peace of mind outweighed the out of pocket cost. Now the struggle begins. How to keep our home clean with this clan of hooligans sabotaging all of my efforts? Then the idea of creating a chore chart resurfaced. I’ve played with this idea in the past because it drives me literally crazy to have to tell my kids every single they need to do each day otherwise they don’t do it.
Play by Play
I want this chore chart to be a stand alone playbook. Kid: ‘Mom, what do I have to do?’ Me: ‘Check the chart!’ This of course, only applies when they ask. I’m bringing back the days of our home running like a well-oiled machine, just with a more strategic plan and with a happier, more centered & peaceful mom at the helm. And when mom is happy the entire household is happier. Trust me!
So, of course, I searched Pinterest and got the creative juices flowing. I saw a few that I’m considering, but I’ll make the tweaks necessary so that it will work for my family. See below for some of the charts I’m considering.
Image from SarahTitus.com
And then I have the ultimate goal to create a command center to keep our family organized and all of our home operations running smoothly. Here’s an example of my ideal command center
The truth is there is a lot that goes into running a home smoothly. Now that I’ve accepted that I am the person primarily steering the ins and outs of the day-to-day, getting organized and establishing a system will not only help us manage our lives better. It is at the sam time teaching our children to take on responsibilities and acknowledge their roles as integral parts of our family team. By setting up a command center where everyone can go to, instead of mom, I am teaching them to use their resources and stay organized to keep balance in their lives. The end goal being more peace for everyone.
Where do I start?
I have an idea. I pass it every day as I walk into my kitchen, yet I didn’t realize it was the perfect spot to set up basecamp until my sister mentioned it to me. The sole thing on this wall is this little chalkboard that has hooks for our keys on it. It’s like I’d subconsciously picked this to be a wall to create a command center, but I only started and forgot to finish it. As with everything else in my home, I’m not that aesthetically inclined, so much more decorating and innovating is needed to make my house homier. See below for this not crafty momma’s attempt at decorating.
Now to transform that space into to something like this
The first step is to find a perfect spot in the center of your routine. Done. The next is to map out the components that your family needs. Mine are:
-A large calendar
-weekly/daily chores list for each person
-containers for writing tools
-important bills bucket
-dry erase board for notes
-weekly meal plan board
-A rewards tracker for the kids
With all these components, I’m aiming at a finished product that will look something like this:
The Importance of Assigning Chores
The way I was raised taught me that everyone in the household played a role. We each did our part to keep the ship running. Although I can’t remember at what age all the moving parts ran autonomously, but I definitely do not remember my mother having to be so on top of each child as I need to be with mine to get anything done. Chores are a necessary part of raising responsible children. It teaches them discipline and proper self and home care. It teaches them principles of cleanliness and provides the lessons they need to manage their own homes as adults. Needless to say, although it is annoying for me to nag and repeat to get things done. I would be doing a disservice to my kids if I neglected to prepare them for adulthood, by not holding them accountable to fulfill their assignments (whether at home or at school).
By opting to include a reward system it’ll allow my children to hold themselves accountable…in theory. Hey, I’m trying. I will let you know as things progress. So off to the mall and the local dollar store to obtain cheap supplies such as picture frames and construction paper, tacks, and other colorful writing tools. Hope this helps you in your endeavor to organize your home and get your kids on board with the routine. Leave a comment below and let me know what worked in your house. Thanks for stopping by! 😘